Why does dating nice guys seems to be a taboo with many women? Could it be there’s a misconception about nice guys and you may be losing out on a good thing? Let’s find out!

As a little girl, up to around 12 years old, you liked the nice boy, he was fun, you could play with him, and everything was so cool. He could be your best buddy.

From pre-teen to young adulthood (up to 29) you are more focused on defining who you are, having fun, doing wild and crazy stuff, and just being irresponsible (not everyone). However, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Adulthood (30s and over) is when you begin to realize how much time you wasted and how you would love to change some things in the past, but it’s too late (or is it?).

You also realize the men you have been dating are not really men. And they really have nothing to offer you but great sex and what you used to call “fun”.

Where do the nice guy fit in? While you were having fun, dating the exciting, cute and fine guys, Mr. Nice Guy (who ironically is Mr. Good Man now) was handling his business.

Back then he was too nice and/or boring. All he could be was your “friend” or “male opinion buddy.” You know…the guy you call to get a male opinion on things.

Now you’re in your late twenties or thirties, the clock is ticking, and you feel the pressure to settle down and have kids.

That Nice Guy whom you passed over many years ago, whom you thought was boring, whom you thought wasn’t your type, whom you thought couldn’t fit into your lifestyle, whom you thought you would never consider talking too, whom you passed every single day, is starting to look good.

He got a nice job, looks better, drives a nice car, educated, got goals, has a nice apartment, condo or house, financially stable, travels, and leading a good life. Since you are ready to settle down he’s the right choice for you, right?

Maybe not! You see those nice guys who were passed over in their teens and late twenties who finally make it in life in their 30s and 40s, may not talk to “shallow, materialistic, immediate gratification women who passed them over” unless they want sex from them.

In your pursuit of fun, and overlooking Mr. Nice Guy, you told him, in not so many words, you are a shallow person who doesn’t look at what’s within a man. You are only concerned with having fun with those guys who are cute, may have had money at an early age and are not doing anything with their life.

You know the guys, they turn you on just by looking at them they are so fine, wild in and out of bed, very spontaneous, crazy and exciting all the time.

After being “friends” or “male opinion buddies” with women like that, Mr. Nice Guy learned what to look for when talking to women. Ultimately, they know what to stay away from when it’s time to settle down or get married. The fun seeker, not interested in nice guys or good men in her teens and twenties woman will have a very hard time attracting a Nice Guy.

Think about it, if all you were attracted to were thugs, knuckleheads, jerks, pretty boys, men who talked a good game but could not deliver, etc…what can you possibly offer a Nice Guy?

Now I will admit Mr. Nice Guy does have needs. And you may be able to seduce him if you catch him at a weak mental and sexual state. You will probably give him the greatest sex of his life. And he will succumb to his sexual urges for a little while. However, he will wake up and when he does, you are history. Sex alone is not enough for a Nice Guy!

At some point in the late 80’s and early 90’s, I came up with the following line to describe a nice guy, “I am the boyfriend nobody wants but the husband every woman would love to have!”

What this mean is the nice guy wasn’t considered boyfriend material because he didn’t present the package the girls were looking for. Now that he is older and doing pretty good in life he has become a hot commodity. The man many women are now looking to settle down with.

You must keep in mind that a Nice Guy is one who has worked very hard to get where he is in life. He will not talk to just anyone. He cannot share his success and life with a wannabe gold digger woman.

As a good man most nice guys main fear is that they would spend the rest of their life with themselves. They often feel that if they don’t meet a woman who likes them for who they are,  and wants to work with him to build the fortune, it would be hard to meet someone who was solely interested in them instead of the money.

Can you honestly see the person within the man without seeing his money, possessions and potential?

One of the things you need ask yourself is, “Was I that girl who passed over the nice guys?” If you are, then you can think of at least two people you should have stayed with or continued to talk too!

I don’t want you to think all the nice guys are making money, drive nice cars and living the good life. That is not true! I can honestly say that the majority of the nice men are regular guys you see everyday. They are the construction workers, mailmen, police officers, firemen, bus drivers, security guards, maintenance men, delivery guy and so on.

Although they may not be making a lot of money, they are comfortable and handling their business. They may not drive that Lexus, but they have a decent car and it works. They may not be able to take you on vacations every 3-months, but once a year is possible and they will help you around the house everyday!

If you want to attract a decent man then you better reevaluate your perceptions of a Nice Guy because those are most of the Good Men.

Let’s get one thing straight, many of nice guys are responsible, dedicated, usually successful, and doing pretty good in life. However, where they may be weak, you maybe strong.

For example, since nice guys seem to finish last early in life, they may not have that much sexual experience, if any.

Now that may be a problem for you. But, I beg to differ! How hard is it to find a man that you can mold to please you the way you want?

Yes, you have to train him, but have fun doing it. I know you are probably shaking your head and saying, “Heck no…I’m not training any man. He better bring what I need to the table or I’ll find someone else.”

While I understand your desire to be pleased sexually, I want you to think of all of the men who disappointed you in the past. Now, just imagine having a man trained to please you the way you love it. That is priceless pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. You can continue to complain or you can start bragging to your girlfriends. The choice is yours!

Believe it or not most nice guys who are doing well in life and business love assertive and aggressive women. They love a woman to take charge. But remember, offer more than sex to a nice guy and you will live your dreams and be happy for a long time.

After reading this, would you consider dating nice guys or will you continue to write them off because they do not “fit your criteria?”

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