You know how to make a good first impression but do you understand the consequences of doing that as it relates to relationships and dating? If not, read on!

When two people meet, they always put their best foot forward. They dress and smell good, say the right things and everything starts off good. First impressions last forever and we do whatever it takes to make it a good one.

Let me ask you a question, “If you put your best foot forward, and that is your best, what is left to see?”

If you answered, “I don’t know” that’s okay! However, there will be one of three outcomes:

  1. Things get worse,
  2. Things stay the same
  3. Things get better

You would agree the majority of the time it gets worse. It’s unusual for it to stay the same. And it’s very rare if things get better.

Why bother to put your best foot forward? Why bother to put up this facade when it’s not who you are every day?

I would suggest you put aside what you “think” you should wear, look like or do, and just be yourself. After all is said and done, you will have to be you anyway, so be it from the start.

If you don’t always go out and eat but prefer to stay home and cook, then do that. If you love to walk and don’t like a couch potato let it be known.

If you are looking for a sex partner, then say it. If you are looking for an activity partner say it. If you are looking for a male friend say it.

Lay the cards on the table and let men know what you desire. Just be very clear as to what you want so there is no confusion. Misleading people and not telling the truth is not an option when it comes to relationships. You must always tell the truth.

When I dated, I would put my best foot forward. Unfortunately, what I did in the beginning would eventually fade away.

The women would complain saying, “You don’t do the things you used to do.” Which was true since I did those things to impress her in the beginning.

It’s not that I didn’t do them, just never did it that much on a consistent basis with anyone, except at the beginning of the relationship. Unfortunately, they would get accustomed to receiving it.

Eventually, the women would end up saying the famous words that many men hear, “You changed.” You would probably agree with this statement, but it’s inaccurate.

Your ex-man didn’t change nor did I. I was always like this. But, the women never saw it. They never looked at the signs. Remember, I put my best foot forward, so naturally they thought that is how I am all the time.

Now you see why you shouldn’t do things that you don’t normally do if you will not continue to do them.

Please remember, people don’t change overnight and rarely over time, they just modify certain aspects of themselves.

What you call changes are really different characteristics of the person you haven’t seen before, but were always there.

How many times have you presented a false image when meeting a man for the first time? Or worse, how many times have the men you have gotten involved with presented a false image when you met them?

How do your relationships turn out?  I can guarantee ninety percent of the time your relationships failed within six months to a year. Five percent failed within three years. Three percent are off-and-on relationships. Two percent would be a long-term relationship (three years or more). This is based on my personal experience only.

The point is would you rather learn everything about your man after you got involved and fell in love with him. Or would you rather learn as much as you can before you consider a long-term relationship?

Why not take the time to get to know the man first without getting attached to him. If it doesn’t work, you can move on with your life without getting hurt. It’s a very simple concept, yet very few people follow it.

If you have to be someone you are not to get a man, then you might as well get ready for another heartache and unhappy relationship. You cannot start a relationship unless you have a solid foundation built on honesty, trust and communication.

Now you know how to make a good first impression that can lead to the beginning of a beautiful relationship and hopefully fulfill your dreams.

Tell me what your experience has been with first impressions and putting your best foot forward by making a comment below.

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