Have you ever thought about life after marriage? If not, you will see how men and women often think different.

Here is a statement that will make you stop and think. Most women are in love with the idea of getting married. They are not ready for marriage. I will repeat that again:

Many women are in love with the idea of getting married.
They are not always ready for marriage.

A lot of women focus so much attention on the wedding day they often forget it’s just the beginning. Men know this already. That is why they are usually more terrified than the woman on the wedding day.

The woman is usually focused on the day (i.e., does everything look good, do I looking good, is everyone there, hope everyone likes the setting, etc.).

The man is usually focused on the days, months, and years after the wedding day (i.e., how will the relationship change, will the sex stay the same, will she want a child, what new issues or concerns will we have to deal with, I know I won’t be spending too much time with my friends, etc.)

Once the newness of the marriage fades, the hard work begins. Seriously ask yourself, “Did you ever think about what’s going to happen with your life after marriage?”

In general, women seem to think everything goes on autopilot, things will go smooth, sex will be great all the time, and the rest is history! We see that nearly fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce, yet women still believe it won’t happen to them.

A marriage takes work. I don’t care how much love you have, it won’t help you if you don’t work at your relationship.

Think about this!

You spend years of your life in school, educating yourself to get a better job with more money. You get a job and you find out they still have to train you even though you may have your Master’s.

You didn’t think you knew everything did you? Remember, every company does things a little different, so you have to learn to apply your training to how the company operates.

A marriage is the same thing. You spend all those years dreaming about your marriage and preparing yourself for that moment. Once you get married, you must take everything you learned over the years about money management, working as a team, budgeting, negotiating, compromising, sacrificing, etc. and apply those skills to your marriage.

If you don’t do your job at work you get a warning; and if it continues, you get fired. If you don’t work on your relationship, you get a warning (long discussions at night and arguments) and if it continues you separate and if all else fails, someone files for a divorce.

Now, here’s the sad part. I was once involved with a woman who was a brilliant business person. I knew she was going places. She was a wonderful mother. Loved and took care of her children.

But, when it came to relationships, she sucked. If she handled her relationship like she handled her business life, we would still be together today.

My point is, at a minimum, you have to decide that your relationship is just as important as your job. It is my belief that your family is more important than any job or career.

Think about it!

If you have a good marriage, and you lose your job, your family will still be there. The love and support of your family will help you get through the hard times. Yet, most of us spend so much time putting them second.

If you truly love yourself, your mate and your children, focus more on them and less on your work. You can get another job, that’s easy! But, you cannot get another husband or mate that will love you like they do. You can’t replace your children who bring that smile to your face each time you see them.

People are irreplaceable, so enjoy them while you have them. When they are gone, it’s tough to get them back…especially if they passed away!

Life after marriage can be wonderful if you’re prepared to work on your relationship!

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