The six relationship mindset levels helps you to begin to understand the men you have dated and will meet in the future. It will also help you to avoid another unhappy relationship.

Have you ever met a 35- or 45-year old person, talk with him or her for a little while and realized they were childish? Have you met a young adult who appeared to be very mature for their age?

Each person is on a different mental level. Just because a person is older does not mean they are smarter, wiser or know better. Basically, all it means is they have lived on this earth longer than someone younger than them.

Just as people can be on a different mental level regarding maturity, they can also be on a different mental level when it comes to relationships.

The following are the six relationship mindset levels. Keep in mind this is not science. It is a guide or tool you can use to help you steer clear of the knuckleheads.

Male/Female

A little baby, in need of attention, intense care and can’t do anything for himself or herself. The mother must always do until the child is old enough to do for self.

You know someone like this! It’s the guy who always wants you to do for him! The one who can’t seem to do anything for himself! He’s just lazy! Not doing anything with his life. No Job. No money. No life. Sloppy! And a very irritable person!

The sad part is you probably had a relationship with at least one person like this in your life and vowed never to fall into that trap again.

Good for you, because this is the type of mate you don’t want in your life if you are a woman.

The only person who can deal with this individual is another person who has low self-esteem and/or doesn’t know any better which is usually a female or girl.

Take a minute and list the names of people who you think possess this relationship mental level on a separate sheet of paper. Include yourself if this is where you are and be honest!

Boy

This type of person hangs out with his boys, plays games, never takes life serious, always wants the new stuff first, shows off what they have, tries to be tough and strong by fighting, may have a job but no career.

A boy uses sexual pleasure as a way of validating his manhood. Thereby, thinking he is a man. Having children by different women does not make them a man. Yet that is what a person with a boy mentality believes.

This mental state is common. Many of the men you meet fall into the male or boy category. Can you recall a relationship when you did all the work, took care of your man and he never did anything to make the relationship work? He just wanted to hang out, spend money, buy fancy stuff and wound up putting you in debt?

Do you remember talking to him constantly about getting serious with his life and why he always has to drink or use drugs?

Wasn’t it annoying to have to deal with this type of person? Here you are trying to better your life and you have this so-called man slowing you down.

Yet, you thought, “If I just work on him he will change. He’s not a bad person; just need someone who cares to push him a little. He has so much potential.” I’m sure you can see where this line of thinking got you! The ideal mate for this person is either a female or girl.

Take a minute and list the names of people who you think possess this relationship mental level. Include your man if this is where he is and be honest!

Girl

This type of person hangs out with the girls, plays games, never takes life serious, always wants the new stuff first, show off what they have, tries to be sexy and sweet, may have a job but no career. Finally, a girl settles for sexual pleasure as a way of validating she is a woman.

The best examples I can give that shows the life of a girl is the movie “Two Can Play That Game” and “How To Lose A Guy In 10-Days.”  If you haven’t seen the movies, rent them. The movies show you, in detail, how girls think and the games they play.

A girl tends to want to hang out with her friends to have fun. This is fine if it’s an extracurricular activity. But when you live to go out, then it’s an issue.

Girls tend to wear the latest fashions spending most, if not all, of their money on clothes, shoes, jewelry and more. These clothes normally show off various body parts. They usually judge men by their looks, how much money they have and the car they drive.

A girl is a person who believes having sex is a way of validating she is a woman. Girls tend to equate sexual fulfillment and orgasms with feeling like a woman.

Girls fall for the stupid men, the stupid lines, lead a stupid lifestyle, always look to get their sexual needs fulfilled, don’t care to know the men they sleep with. They are usually the ones who have children at a young age and end up getting abused by their man.

Just look at the people you see on the various talk shows. Most, if not all of them, are males, females, boys or girls. Only a fool would go on national television and air their dirty laundry, fight over a man or display and talk about their sexual preference.

You need to really ask yourself, “Would a real man or woman air their private life in public?” The answer is, “No!” They handle issues behind closed doors!

If you are a girl, then you have a lot of work ahead of you. This guide can only point you in the right direction; it cannot walk you through healing yourself step-by-step.

Take a minute and list the names of people who you think possess this relationship mental level. Include yourself if this is where you are and be honest!

Man/Woman

This type of person is responsible, caring, compassionate, hangs out with the boys/girls but at the appropriate times (i.e., girls/guys night out), plays games, but knows when to take care of business.

Takes life serious, but knows when to have fun, desires the new stuff, but understands the concept of ASSETS and LIABILITIES although not fully, rarely shows off what he/she has, is strong mentally and emotionally; therefore doesn’t have to fight to show his/her strength, has a job probably working on a career or has a career.

They understand that sex is not the end, but the beginning. In other words, sex is an act. Making love involves feelings…having an emotional attachment to the person.

We can go on and on about the mentality of a man or woman, boy or girl, male or female, but that’s not important. What’s important is your ability to identify the mental state of the person you are talking with or considering talking too.

Take a minute and list the names of people who you think possess this man/woman relationship mental level. Include yourself if this is where you are and be honest!

The mental states are nothing more than a guide or tool to help you sort through the various men you will encounter. It should help you quickly identify a potential good man. Afterwards, you can get to know him better to see if he meets your needs.

The purpose of having you write the names of people who fit the various relationship mental levels, is to help you practice identifying the levels with people you know. Once you are able to quickly identify the levels of those you know, it becomes easy to recognize the levels of people you meet for the first time!

Something To Think About

I want you to pay attention the next time you or one of your girlfriends ask their man for something they need. When most women want something from their man they act like a little girl and talk in a little girl voice. Women seem to do it in a very sexy way!

I picked up on this by watching my daughter. Then I realized many women do the same thing. No wonder men seem to always give in to women. :)

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